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If there’s one art substance dependents have truly mastered, it’s the creation of an intricate web of lies and excuses. In an addict’s viewpoint, these are exceptional ways to mask their dependence with things that are seemingly normal and do away with shame. In reality, lies and excuses are manifestations of their denial and reluctance to overcome their plight.
What’s worse is no one ever calls on these negative reinforcements. This might be because people around the addict have no idea, or they’re also denying the reality. If you’re suspecting that your loved one is dependent on drugs or alcohol in the first place, do your best to filter the things he says. Once you find out that some of them are lies, have the courage to tell the person about it. Don’t believe him when he says, “I’m not an addict,” because he probably is. Below are some examples of lies and excuses that your loved one must have told you in one way or the other.
“I Need to Do It So I Can Go Social”
A couple of tequila shots may bring everyone together and keep the fire of friendship burning. But this is not an absolute reason to have an unreasonable indulgence. This is a downright excuse, as there are other interesting ways to prevent isolation and strengthen bonds.
“I’m Not Hurting Anyone, So Why Should I Stop?”
He may not be hurting anyone, but he’s actually hurting himself. The hurt he’s causing may not be physical, but look how people avoid him and how relationships fall apart. What actually hurt the people around the addict is the misunderstandings and the creation of stereotypes.
Depression, as some researchers put it, can be an upshot of addiction. But if the person’s depressed in the first place, he should not aggravate the problem by indulging in alcohol and other addictive substances. Drinking or using drugs may make them feel better, but it won’t take away the problem.
“I Need it for Work”
This argument is absolutely invalid. Resorting to pints or a few hits won’t make work easier. If this has been a constant excuse, now is the right time to tell that person that the “renewal” or “refreshed feeling” he gets after he’s done the deed will only take away productivity.
Lies and excuses are false rationalizations. These only make things worse and make addiction more difficult to overcome. Don’t let these lies and excuses become your reality. Ask help. We’re here to listen. Browse our website to see our rehabilitation programs or call us to learn more about them.