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If you feel alcohol is beginning to get the better of you then that is a positive. It means you recognise the negative signs and symptoms frequent drinking sessions bring.
Recognition is a good sign, but it is then imperative action is taken. One way is to say “No” when offered alcohol.
Surely saying “No” is simple?
For many regular drinkers looking to cut-back or stop their alcohol intake it is not as straightforward to refuse a drink as it may appear. This difficulty increases the more socially active that person is.
Anyone who has been hitting the bottle too hard or attends regular social events will be in company that is used to seeing them with a glass in hand.
Simply saying “No” may bring the person concerned fears of being wrongly judged, or pressures in terms of constantly being offered alcohol.
Another stress of simply refusing alcohol is that those around you will ask the inevitable question; “Why?”. Without a planned response, such a repetitive question can become increasingly embarrassing and tedious. It will also weigh more heavily on a person the more often it is asked.
This can be to the extent where the individual trying to cut back thinks it is far easier to accept a drink and be done with it.
Less is more:
Trying to reduce alcohol intake and refusing a drink commonly makes it inevitable that those offering will want an explanation as to why.
Take time to think of simple, straightforward reasons why, rehearse them and use the most appropriate dependent upon the company you are in.
Here are 2 different approaches to consider:
Brook no argument:
Make an excuse:
If you are not comfortable with such direct responses then think of excuses that will appease the person offering you alcohol.
Please remember that you should never feel pressure refusing anything you do not want, but if this approach works for you then go for it with confidence.
Be firm and determined:
Trying to cut back on alcohol can be difficult enough as it is without family or friends constantly badgering you to have a drink. Those you know intimately can be rebuffed in a firm, determined manner that should be stated without upsetting them.
Tell them that you are serious about cutting out alcohol, you are worried about your health, how much you have been drinking and how you have been feeling the morning after.
Explain you want a healthier life and you do not need extra pressure piling on you to have a drink.
Such committed statements will help loved ones and real friends understand your situation and make sure it is a soft drink offered rather than alcohol.